FOREPLAY Techniques Every Man Should Know
Quickies and hard-core sex is great, it's fun and important to isolate real intercourse. Whether your just sleeping together, dating or married if you are routinely sleeping with someone variety is your ultimate key to pleasure. For great variety there should be nights of just intercourse and others of just oral sex. Either way, fore play can be many things, below are some of my personal favorite.
Why is foreplay so important?
Because women take longer to achieve orgasm than men - no matter how BIG, hot, sexy, tanned, well spoken or great of a martial artist you are - a women can be turned on and ready to go, but orgasm still takes us longer.
Foreplay is to sex what stretching is to a workout: easy to skip but essential for great results
Think of foreplay as an essential (at least one to two times a week).
How long should foreplay last?
It's different for everyone, but the good news is - you'll know. The two of you will be locked into one another, foreplay speaks its on language and once the two of you start speaking, and understanding one another, it will be easy to tell.
How do I know if what your doing is working?
Just in case you don't know how to recognize the signals by now, here are the signs that your foreplay is succeeding...
- Erect nipples
- Heavy breathing
- Firm clitoris
- Moist vagina
- Heavy moaning and large smile
Learn to tease:
Kiss and fondle her breasts and stroke her buttocks while gently teasing her with your penis. Resist the urge to penetrate, though, until she wants, or hopefully begs you to.
Know her body
HER BREASTS While you might enjoy them, only one in ten women actively play with them during masturbation, so don't automatically expect her to respond to your attentive breast worship. Breast pleasure varies by women. Start gentle and get harder as she starts to respond or ask. Its also okay ask her if she's enjoying it.
HER NIPPLES If they're not erect yet, don't clamp or twist them. Instead, use the flat of your palm or finger tips. Then to rub her entire breast in a circular motion. Start lightly and increase the pressure as she becomes excited. Once they are firm, take them between two wet fingers and slide back and forth. Don't squeeze (too hard).
HER CLITORIS This area is full of concentrated nerve endings. The clitoris is a lot more sensitive to touch than the penis, so don't bash or tweak it too hard with your fingers. And don't plunge a finger deep into the vagina - most women find this a real turn-off, work your way in slow and steady. Don't forget to moisten your fingers with saliva or use a gel or lube - you can use K-Y or a more elaborate (sex shop) brand.
HER INNER LIPS These are much more sensitive than the outer ones, especially if stroked along their inner surface. A large majority of women masturbated by stroking the inner lips, as well as the clitoris.
1. Kiss each other everywhere. Literally - use your lips. It's fun to kiss, but don't just stay in one area, use the lips and tongue to explore the body and make sure she does the same. Take turns kissing and licking.
2. Use only your hands. Sometimes its fun to "explore", touching and being touched is a great way to find your and her pleasure points. Feeling all over her body is a great turn on for everyone, plus it can help you determine her "pressure points" or areas that create the greatest surge of pleasure.
3. Liquor. Sex is different from drunk sex... getting drunk or buzzed can loosen her up and perhaps allow more possibilities for "experimentation".
4. Tell her what you want. Some girls love to be told, ask her to dance for you or strip or even say things that are turn-on's. Many girls are too shy to be wild on their own, but when told what to do they feel comfortable knowing that they won't look stupid and jump at the chance to be a little naughty.
5. Toys. Toys are a man's best friend. Start with something familiar like a vibrator, most women have one so they wont be intimidated. Later you can bring something new like anal beads. Incorporate the toy into your foreplay, make the night about her using it, watch her, then include it into other parts of your night. As a man you should never be intimidated by a little buzzing object, think of it as an ally, something that can be partnered with regular or anal sex. It brings a variety to the pleasure. Stay away from large dildos and big scary looking objects that come with instructions (at least for the beginning) and if getting a vibrator, my personal favorite is the little pink pocket rocket, it gets me wet and wild and naughty feeling enough for the real thing.